I'm on this carousel of perspective about being a parent (still no baby here...counting down the days); I go from thinking "I'm gonna be a great dad and the wife is going to be a great mom" to thinking "I'm going to screw this up seven different ways a day." It's occurring to me now that those two positions may not be mutually exclusive.
I joked with some friends at a recent dinner party (all of them experienced parents already) that our plan was to not try to be good parents, since that's what most people do; we're just going to go another way. It was a joke, but I wonder if there may not be some value in not trying too hard. My bias is going to be a helicopter parent, a neurotic micro-manager, an overly protective bubble-boy sort of dad, and I know that I have to work against that bias.
So let's just put it out there, now, in writing, that my goal is going to be:
- feed him
- clothe him
- protect him from wild animals
- read to him regularly
and now, apropos of nothing (unless they are "wild animals"):